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To build your self confidence: Don’t wait for others to change before you can feel happy

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To build your self confidence: Don’t wait for others to change before you can feel happy

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If you are searching for changes in your life you must first make changes internally.

Do you ever think if only circumstances, events or people would change, life will be better? What’s interesting about this misconception is that the way the universe works, you attract into your life experiences that match your internal moods. Psychologically you can interpret this as your life reflecting back at you your perceptions and beliefs.

It seems logical to think if only the horrible boss, friend, family member, partner or acquaintance would change your life would be easier and happier. Yet even when you free yourself from these people without addressing internal beliefs and values, there will be someone just as horrible waiting for you around the corner to make life feel just as miserable. In reality there are plenty of similar thinking people in this world to attract and you will continue to attract them unless you are clear about your boundaries. This is a core aspect of improving self esteem – accepting that you cannot change others. First you must change your thinking and feeling and then your circumstances will change.

What are you attracting?

The real issue to address is ‘what are you thinking and feeling on a regular basis that is attracting such people into your life and what are you saying (verbally and non-verbally) is ok through your actions? When you don’t stand up for yourself and allow others to treat you with little respect, you demonstrate that you accept such treatment.

When others hurt you, you must look internally and ask yourself what am I missing here? Have I allowed this behaviour to go unaddressed in the past? Have I addressed the issue and been Ignored? Have I excused the behaviour? Is this behaviour the result of me being too passive to say what I would really desire?

Liking yourself is crucial to how to build self esteem

In order to truly be happy you must be happy with who you are. By increasing your own self belief and sticking to your values and beliefs, others around you will quickly learn the ways they should treat you. By working on increasing your inner strength and internal personal power, you can stand strong in the face of negative experiences and walk away feeling healthy and happy.

You have to be your own first priority – never forget that. Care for others, but never at the expense of your personal values and beliefs. Be strong and live happier and healthier.

To learn how to build confidence and gain self esteem visit Happy Life at: https://www.helpformums.com

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Lizzie O'Halloran

I am a self esteem coach who specialises in helping women to build self confidence, improve health and wellbeing and succeed in their careers. I work in professional women, mothers and couples to empower them with the tools required to live a happy, healthy and successful life.

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