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Improving Self esteem tips: How to know it’s time for a break

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Why it’s important to take a break for your self confidence and self esteem

I am a very driven person. It’s something I learnt from my mother who has an amazing ability to decide she wants something and then go for it. My internal drive pushes me through when I feel like I have nothing left to give. However, the down side is it can be difficult to know when to stop, when to take a break, or when to shift focus.

Over the years I have learnt various ways to identify there is a need to stop and also now ensure I schedule a week off once a year to rest and recuperate.

One of the things that happens as a result of burn out is poor decision making. The consequence of pore decision making is usually negative feedback. When you think of self esteem and self confidence a great deal is based on your perceptions on yourself and these are based on internal and external validation.

When you feeling burnt out you begin to increase self criticism, have a tendency to judge yourself too harshly and can assume you are being judged negatively by others also. As a result your internal validation is very low and you perceive your external validation to be low also. Both of these things are a recipe for poor Self esteem.

So how do you know it’s time to take a break?

One of the most obvious signs is when you feel like you are pushing against the flow rather than travelling along the flow. In other words things feel like a real struggle. This often happens when you’re feeling burnt out in business. Your ideas don’t flow as easily, you feel like you’re pushing people to buy your products and you’re no longer truly enjoying the process.

When you feel you are working too hard and not enjoying the flow or seeing any real progress, it’s time to take a break. It’s not time to quit. This is not the time to give up, but rather to give yourself headspace to come up with more innovative ideas to grown and succeed in your endeavours.

So protect and manage your self esteem and self confidence regularly and take a break whenever you start to feel the signs of potential burn out.

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Best weight loss tips: Are you Focussing on weight loss or getting healthy?

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Best weight loss tips: Are you Focussing on weight loss or getting healthy?

happy life daily inspirationsBest Weight los Tips: Are you Focussing on weight loss or getting healthy?

As a health expert I regularly question why obesity and overweight statistics are so high, yet there has never been more information available on how to lose weight. It’s also interesting that whilst on one hand we have a great increased awareness of the detrimental health impacts of sugar and salt, people line up outside new donut stores to purchase the latest junk food craze.

 The desire for pleasure often wins

Of of our inherent natural instincts is to avoid painful experiences and to seek out things that will give us pleasure. In a society where you may often feel guilty for eating sugar laden food, it makes perfect sense that you might be excited about the opportunity to indulge in a delicious treat ‘if everyone else is doing it’. Being part of the masses reduces your feelings of guilt – at least in the moment!

What’s going wrong?

Personally I think society has been fed the wrong message. The media over the past 50 years has portrayed beautiful skinny models as the goal women should aspire to and buff looking male models as the goal for men. However, where is the scientific evidence that being skinny = healthy? People have different body shapes. The goal should not be to be skinny or to have ‘ripped’ muscles. The goal should be to be healthy and to look your best for your own body shape.

Just because you look good, doesn’t mean you’re healthy

As a past Natural Bodybuilding athlete for Australia, I saw first hand evidence of what it can take to get ones body to look in perfect peak condition. In my last International competition I saw a number of top althetes gorging on sugary treat prior to entering the physique judging rounds. I thought this was so strange when there I was practically starving myself in the hope of getting just a bit more definition prior tocompetition.

Wheb I returned home, I asked a few of my bodybuilding mates what they made of this behaviour. All of them believed it was equivalent to the men who skull straight alcohol before entering the judging arena. This is not a method of getting drunk (they are not drinking copious amounts), but rather the sugar in the alcohol has an immediate positive effect on muscular definition – post a competition strict diet.

This experience really made me realise that at times an external perfect looking physique is not all its cracked up to be.

So what should we be doing?

The answer is not to stop trying to be healthy, but rather to stop focussing on how you look physically and focus more on how you feel internally. When you do that, you’re external physical body will respond accordingly.

  • Just imagine if instead of looking in the mirror and criticising yourself, you looked and told yourself how happy you were, how successful you were or how much you were looking forward to your day?
  • Just imagine if instead of berrating yourself for even thinking about junk food, you allowed yourself 1 day per week to really enjoy your treats.
  • Just imagine if you organised your daily meals a week in advance so that you could begin to enjoy recipies for healthy living that taste great and made you feel great too?

All these things are possible – it’s up to you !

You make the call

It’s your turn to decide. Do you want to focus on losing weight, or getting healthy? Make the decision to live a healthy life that brings you more happiness and success than you’re currently attracting into your life. That simple mind shift from weight loss to healthy living is very powerful and is completely in your hands.

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How to improve self esteem through goal setting

Goal Setting and Happiness

goal setting to build self esteemIt’s an interesting aspect of human existence that people would often rather remain in an unhappy environment, than strive towards true happiness. Maybe this has something to do with our inherent mentality of “I’ll be happy when…” – feeling defeated by the pain of the here and now.

Do you focus regularly on your past achievements?

If you think back in time to all the desires you longed for and finally achieved, how many of these do you re-focus on and remind yourself of how great you feel as a result of these achievements? Our brains seem to be wired to focus on thoughts such as “yeh I know I have that, but I don’t want this present feeling and therefore until I get what I really want, I won’t REALLY be happy”.

The sneaky truth is that there is never an end of the road because we will always be seeking new adventures, relationships, material pleasures. There is nothing wrong with pushing goals, however our assumption that only through achievement can we  ultimately gain happiness is flawed.

As human beings we are meant to seek greater heights. We just need to accept this is a fantastic aspect of life, rather than a constant burden. We need to trust that we can map out the journey towards our goals and desires, but the road is likely to take many turns and when we reach our desired outcome we will question “what’s next”???

Therefore the answer lies in being excited about your desires and trusting in your abilities to stand the test of time and pursue your dreams – riding the waves along the way!

Believe in yourself

If you are in a situation or circumstance that is causing extreme unhappiness this focus is even more important. The most important thing to do is begin to build your self esteem and self confidence in your abilities to achieve your desires. You need to trust in your abilities to get you there and focus on the excitement of small achievements along the way. Each achievement should be recognised and rewarded. For instance, having the discipline to sit down and study, completing a highly commended project, getting to gym 3 times this week, or eating healthy foods today.

When you begin to relish in each achievement you gain closer perspective on how to enjoy the road ahead and appreciate each moment.

Life is to be lived, not wasted waiting until happiness falls upon you. It’s your life. Live it & love it.

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