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6 months ago · · 0 comments

How To Stop Worrying About What Colleagues Think of You At Work

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How much time do you spend at work worrying about what your superiors might think of you?

Many employees spend countless hours per day worrying about whether or not the boss will like them and even whether or not they will be fired. This fear is partly driven by an ever changing economy and regular news of company closures and downsizing. However, the major driver of this fear is internal insecurity as a result of personalising work.

One of the most common human fears is failure and at work failure can be grounds for dismissal. Whilst this fear can be valid, it is a fear that is usually irrational as most people are working at a high standard – consistent with their high work ethic. The nature of working for someone else leaves one exposed to external circumstances, so it’s important to recognise that all you can do is try your best at work and ensure you treat it like a business, rather than your friend.

People often become very upset about changes in the workplace and in particular negative personalities that make it very difficult to perform ones job well on a daily basis. This is again due to the personalisation and ownership placed on ones career in the first place. In other words, making the mistake of taking work personally and forgetting that it’s a business.

Company downsizing and cutting staff is a perfect example of where Senior Management have to draw the line between work and emotions. The people in charge of firing large quantities of staff must separate the work from emotion in order to think strategically about which staff should be let go. Whilst being friends with your boss may protect you for a while, when it comes to major decisions like these, companies look at productivity and cost savings. So, once again all you can do from a professional standpoint is think regularly about how your contribution at work impacts on the business and don’t allow yourself to be dragged down by negative personalities in the workplace.

As the employee you must think of work as a business and your performance as part of this business. Your personal life is completely separate. The friendships you develop at work have nothing to do with your work (except with respect to forming networks to assist with daily tasks and potential future jobs). They mainly make your day to day life more pleasant and really form part of your personal life – not your professional life.

So, enjoy your relationships at work and start each day with a mindset of success, achievement and contribution to the greater good of your company’s needs. After all, negative people eventually move on and all the work you do will hold you in great stead for new and exciting professional positions in the future.

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Lizzie O'Halloran

I am a self esteem coach who specialises in helping women to build self confidence, improve health and wellbeing and succeed in their careers. I work in professional women, mothers and couples to empower them with the tools required to live a happy, healthy and successful life.

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