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How To Reduce Self Doubt

Overcoming fear

When you’re not confident, you can find yourself agreeing to things you never dreamt you would, or to avoid and pass up opportunities that you previously believed would be a dream come true.

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Self doubt reflects an inner belief that you are not worthy or good enough at something. On a conscious level you are likely to believe you are worthy, however, self doubt is more subconscious – coming to the surface when you are under stress. For instance, due to social comparison many mothers doubt their skills as a mother whenever they (or their children) are not acting as perfectly as they believe they should be. As a parent, you do your best to provide love, support, understanding, security and fun. However, the stressors of life often get in the way of making this possible. As a result, every time you have to do something that takes you away from your picture of how the perfect mother should behave, you are likely to beat yourself up over it and further feed the self doubt.

Trust yourself

In order to reduce self doubt you need to change your internal beliefs. This means ingraining in your mind that you are good enough, you are trying your best and you deserve good things in your life. These beliefs need some effort to ingrain because you are often fighting against years of self doubt and strongly held negative self beliefs. Whilst these beliefs tend to hold you back, they do so in order to protect you from getting hurt. Thus, a life coach who uses techniques such as NLP or hypnotherapy can really help to clear out these old beliefs (on a subconscious level) and instil more positive – useful beliefs in their place.

Gaining self belief

Almost everyone experiences self doubt in one area of their life from time to time. It’s the product of upbringing and ongoing reinforcement. Therefore, it’s a learned behavioural response, which can be re-trained. Having a high self belief is the cornerstone of life success, so reducing self doubt is critical to overall happiness in life. It is an issue that many people struggle with and can cause a great deal of frustration.
Often you’ll find yourself working so hard to achieve a desired goal, only to self sabotage your success. When self doubt kicks in you’ll convince yourself you’re not good enough, smart enough, attractive enough, rich enough, or even lucky enough – whenever you’re faced with a roadblock. You will also tend to interpret roadblocks as a reflection of your poor self worth, rather than life’s inevitable challenges you must face in order to grow as a human being.

Each new day gives you an opportunity to start again and build on your self worth. Every step you take towards self worth, reduces your self doubt and brings you closer to happiness and success.

Lizzie O’Halloran, BBSc, MASR, NLP Prac

Founder of Help For Mums

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How To Stop Being A People Pleaser

Being a people pleaser

The law of attraction suggests we pick up on others energies and if we are not mindful, we will internalise these outward feelings as our own. It’s incredible how many people lose themselves in the process of trying to please others. This does not mean that you should not try to make others happy. It is a very nice part of humanity to gain joy from giving joy to others. However, when you start to second guess how others are feeling, or take their feelings on as though they are your own, it becomes a problem.

Fear of Rejection

A large part of worrying about what others think, also comes from fear of getting into trouble – or upsetting others. Unfortunately a by-product of being a nice person, can result in becoming a people-pleaser. This sounds nice on one level, but it can cause a great deal of stress when it comes at the sacrifice of your needs and desires. Further, when you continuously put your needs last – in order to people others – resentment and guilt are often not far behind.

In order to change automatic reactions and habits it’s important to consciously recognise the relationships that tend to bring on people-pleasing behaviour and then to approach every new interaction with the resolve to be true to yourself and not simply agree with others, so as not to offend them. For instance, if you are a parent and you have a belief about how children should be put to sleep (which is in complete opposition to a friend’s) it would be much more healthy for you to acknowledge your friend’s belief and still raise your personal views. What most people do is say nothing (or agree) with opposing beliefs and then end up feeling angry and offended, rather than addressing the issue first hand. In doing so, the peace may have been kept – but at what cost to your soul and self-esteem?

Feeling insecure?

Most of us have an innate desire to be liked, so we often go out of our way to make others happy and to keep the peace. However, this does not have to come at the cost of yourself – in other words – you don’t have to lose yourself in relationships in order to be happy. By relaxing with who you are and accepting that your true friends will like you for who you really are – not the mirror image on themselves – you will feel much more comfortable and less exhausted as a result of being the real you, rather than the people-pleasing you.

Lizzie O’Halloran, BBSc, MASR, NLP Prac

Founder of Help For Mums

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The secret to achieving work life balance

Achieving Life Balance

One of the things experts who have changed their lives say, is that with dedication and perseverance – you can change your life. However, the hardest part about changing your life, is balancing all the aspects of your life that you wish to excel in. For instance, how do you manage to have a successful career when you have a strong desire to spend time with your partner and children?

boost self confidenceMany successful professionals often find themselves working long hours in order to move up the corporate ladder, or to build successful businesses. Getting the balance right can be difficult.

Whilst their are practical considerations and roadblocks to balancing life priorities (especially when you’re trying to make a change to reach a goal), there are two essential ingredients to achieving a good balance:
1) Unwavering self-belief
2) Feeling happy about the life balance that you maintain

 

1) Unwavering self-belief

This is one of the biggest challenges human beings face. Many people find themselves self-sabotaging their successes because they don’t really believe they’re good enough to achieve or sustain their desired goals. When the goal is set, it appears to be achievable, however, when roadblocks start to appear, or the road becomes a little more difficult, self-doubt creeps in to dent confidence and motivation. This self-doubt usually leads to procrastination. People often assume procrastination is laziness, however, it is usually the result of underlying fear.
One of the easiest ways to build self- belief when you’re moving towards a goal, is to continually refocus on where you want to go. For instance, if your goal is to write a book, you may find yourself procrastinating to avoid parts of the process (e.g. writing, editing, promoting) so as to have an excuse for it to potentially fail – as it’s not yet complete.

In the moments of procrastination, you must continuously remind yourself why your goal is important to you. You also need to be focused in the present moment, rather than focusing on the outcome of the goal. In the book writing example, you would focus on just the next step, rather than worrying about whether or not the book is going to be liked or well received. This mind shift takes some effort and persistence, because fear can be a very strong motivator for moving away from achieving a potentially scary goal.

2) Feeling happy about the life balance you maintain

Everyone has different desires and wishes for their professional life and personal life. Thus, you need to take time out to think about how much time you feel comfortable spending in all areas of your life and how this sits with those you care about most. Research shows that consistent, positive and quality time with loved ones is very effective at maintaining good quality relationships, so if you have minimal time with loved ones, at least make it count. This way, you can feel good about the time you’re spending together and rationalise the amount of time you spend at work, at the gym, with friends and acquaintances, travelling and so on.

It’s a good idea to give yourself space and time to reflect on the past year and to think about new strategies you could put into place to make your life more productive, effective and enjoyable. Trust in your self-belief and abilities to make the changes necessary to live a happy and successful life and seek help whenever you need it – to move forward with self confidence, trust and motivation.

Lizzie O’Halloran, BBSc, MASR, NLP Prac

Founder of Help For Mums

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The Pursuit of Health and Happiness

The pursuit of happiness

In the pursuit of happiness it’s very easy to neglect your physical body and to ignore the impact that your health is having on your ability to achieve and maintain a happiness and a successful life.

Lizzie o'halloranAs adults, we spend a lot of time trialling various behaviours that may lead to short term feelings of euphoria (such as excess drinking, watching TV, smoking, and eating junk food). However, whilst you may experience an immediate positive feeling from these behaviours – long term these behaviours tend to lead to negative emotions. Therefore, short term gain can lead to long term pain.

What is even more interesting, is that short term gains in mood are also likely to lead to short term pain. For instance, eating junk or drinking excess coffee can lead to feeling bloated, tired, agitated, stressed and anxious. These negative moods can leave you feeling unmotivated, unsociable and cloudy headed. Yet, in the moment, junk food and coffee can satisfy an immediate need for an energy boost. So, we can easily fall victim to pleasing immediate needs without thinking about how they will make us feel later and in particular how they will affect our goals.

Ignoring the steps for a healthy life

So why do we ignore the nourishing mental and physical needs of our bodies – only paying attention when something really breaks down?
I believe we often ignore our body because we justify that other activities in life are more important, however if your body is not working efficiently, you will find yourself losing motivation, feeling too tired to achieve your goals and losing confidence in yourself if your physical body is not operating as well as it should/could be.

In addition, the message we have been receiving from the media for many years now is that the purpose of our external bodies is to portray a (pre-defined and culturally defined) beauty. As a result, MANY men, women and kids find themselves comparing their bodies to those they see in the media. Unfortunately these images tend to be well prepared and photographed (or air brushed), giving most people the belief that they could never measure up to these images. Thus, it’s easier to give up trying to reach such an unrealistic goal and enjoy the here and now instead.

The problem with this defeatist attitude is that internally these media images “stick”” and as a result people often feel guilty for not engaging in healthy behaviors in order to try to emulate the beauty stereotype. This guilt leads to feeling down and so the search for an instant ‘pick me up’ strikes again.

So what can you do to stop this behavior?

In order to fight against this way of thinking you need to start viewing your physical body as your tool to achieving success and happiness in life. This means looking after it and treating it well, so that it will in turn assist you when you need it most (eg, when you want to play sport with the kids/friends, brainstorm great ideas for a new project, perform well at work, present your best ‘self’ in an interview or on a date, or stay up late to complete an important project).

Living a healthy lifestyle is much more about giving you the best chance to achieve success, than it is about you looking good.
Let your body be your best tool to drive you to achieve your goals and desires in life.

Lizzie O’Halloran, BBSc, MASR, NLP Prac

Founder of Help For Mums

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How To Boost Job Satisfaction

How to achieve happiness at work

mother returning to workIt’s an interesting question when you think that we expect 17 year old youths to have a very concrete view of their future life and career path. At this age, they are asked to make study, or work choices that will potentially shape the course of the rest of their lives, yet they really have such limited life experience to genuinely know if their chosen career path will bring them life fulfilment and happiness. This is why so many adults find themselves in unfulfilling careers, feeling lost and ‘stuck’ in jobs that only fulfil the need to sustain a certain level of living.
There is not much we can do about the academic system, however, we can certainly try to have an influence on our children’s futures by guiding them towards career paths that at least appear to be in line with their passions and interests. It is also important to advise children that often it takes time to work out what we really want to do and that we often have to take wrong turns to gain insights into careers that will not bring us the joy we perhaps envisioned at one time or another. The key message here is that it is NEVER too late to change your career path.

When I was studying psychology at LaTrobe University, one of my friends in class was a well known radio announcer who later in life decided to pursue a career in psychology which had always been a passion of hers. If you were to look at her life from outside, you would question why she would want to move out of a career which resulted in her being in the public eye, gave her a lot of validation and enough money to retire on. However, money and fame did not bring her everything she desired in a job. Whilst she enjoyed the fruits of her labour, she felt something was missing and made a decision to finally bridge this gap.

This life change is often a fantasy for most people because they pigeon hole themselves in careers that bring a certain amount of financial independence. Thus, the difficulty in changing careers later in life is committing to doing something that will make you happy, at the expense of the lifestyle you have created for you and your partner/ family.

Happy employees

Whilst this is a difficult decision, it does not have to be an ‘all or nothing’ choice. Many clients come to see me because they are tired of working in a job that’s not in line with their passions, however they do not know how to break out of their current situation. Of course the first step in the process is spending time in self discovery to truly understand what brings you joy. For instance, do you have a passion for the artistic, political, legal, or social? Which areas of these spheres do you feel you could happily talk about and engage in all day? These questions will lead you to discover your true passions. Then, you need to decide if you require further study, career coaching or experience in this field. In order to minimize the impact on your current lifestyle, it’s best to try to arrange your current work around the study, experience, or coaching. The only down side to this step is feeling overwhelmed and tired. Therefore, in order to minimize this side effect, a great deal or organization, determination and commitment is required. These skills are always valuable in life, so they are an added bonus to your professional development skills.

Finding happiness at work

If you are organized, committed and determined, it doesn’t matter at which age you finally decide to live your professional dreams. Whilst we need to work to live, we also need to feel that we are contributing the best of ourselves to the world. There is a reason why you are talented in specific areas. Allow others to benefit from your talents. Your life is worth living the way that makes you happy, satisfied & fulfilled.

Lizzie O’Halloran, BBSc, MASR, NLP Prac

Founder of Help For Mums

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Stress Management – How To Reduce Stress To Avoid & Recover From Illness

Stress and Health

When you push yourself too hard physically and emotionally you can find that you take a lot longer to recover from colds and flu. Modern life does not tend to present you with many opportunities to take time out to fully recover from mild illness. Thus, once your obvious symptoms dissipate, you tend to either feel too guilty to continue to rest and recuperate, or you have too much on your plate to do so.

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There are a finite number of hours in the day and your list of ‘to-do’s’ can often feel overwhelming, leaving you little time to allow yourself permission to rest. This is particularly true for high level professionals and parents, who are relied upon significantly by others – day in and day out. In addition to external pressures, it’s very common to feel guilty about resting, when there is still so much more to be undertaken and achieved.

So, how do you fully recover from illness in order to function at your optimum – most of the time?

In order to recuperate fully and feel your best, there are the ‘usual’ things to do, such a sleep well/enough and eat well. However, in reality recent research shows that in order to achieve our ever growing list of tasks, we find it easiest to skimp on sleep. Shaving a few hours here and there can add a significant number hours to your year, so it’s no wonder it’s so tempting to give it up and thus to maintain the recommended 8 hours of good quality sleep a night.

Instead of trying to change your sleeping habits, a quick and easy way to improve your health (before, during and after illness) is through slowing down. Most people tend to make the misguided assumption that in order to achieve, one must move with speed. The problem with this theory is the body’s reaction to being placed under pressure on a regular basis – STRESS. Regular, ongoing stress has been shown to cause a short-term reduction in IQ. This is why, it can be very difficult to think clearly and make rational decisions with your stressed – and thus increase the chance of making mistakes and having to end up working harder. Rushing around tying to achieve a million things in a day/week/month/year usually ends up resulting in a lot of wasted time and energy.

In contrast, if you were to start your day with a few deep breaths, 5 minute relaxation exercises and made a conscious effort to slow down, you would be able to think more clearly and rationally and thus be much more productive during the day.

Stop Feeling Overwhelmed

For instance, most people arrive at work and feel anxious as soon as they begin to look at emails, to-do lists and speak to other stressed co-workers. They tend to spend the day frantically trying to spot multiple fires, feeling overwhelmed, stressed and unproductive. If instead of this strategy, they walked into the office, took out a notepad and began to scan through emails, to-do lists and verbal requests from staff first thing in the morning and then developed a daily priority list, they would be able to tick off the most important jobs they had achieved that day. This would in turn provide both a feeling of achievement and a sense of control.

Undertaking such a morning task would take between 15-30 minutes per day, but would give back many more hours of productive work in return. The act of slowing down and gaining control is vital for health and wellbeing, particularly in this busy world we live in.

Your mind significantly impacts your physical health and emotional state, so if you’re feeling run down or overwhelmed, try to simply slow down. Try it for 1 week and see how much it improves your life.

Lizzie O’Halloran, BBSc, MASR, NLP Prac

Founder of Help For Mums

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How To Set Smart Goals – With Examples

Smart Goals

It’ very easy to set a new goal. In fact, every year, at midnight on New Year’s Eve millions of people around the world decide on New Year’s resolutions that they have every intention of keeping, but alas rarely adhered to, or even attempt, by the end of January.

working mother returning to workOne would assume that if you set a resolution, it’s because you’re fed up with certain aspects of your life and you have decided that it’s time to make a change. However, in many cases, at the time of making the resolution, certain essential ingredients are likely to have been missed, such as:

  1. Writing a clear, precise and easy to follow plan
  2. Developing a monitoring chart to check that you are maintaining your plan
  3. Committing to your new goal
  4. Understanding deeply why the goal is important to you
  5. Increasing your internal belief that you can achieve your goal
  6. Committing to the sacrifices you will have to make in order to sustain this goal

Goals in life

I experienced the sixth item above when I was 17 years of age. A friend and I were walking down a very busy shopping strip when we were stopped by Animal Liberation activists and asked to join their organisation. My friend was already a vegetarian, but being South American, I was brought up eating meat – and lots of it. However, despite my upbringing I have always been a passionate lover of animals and so I was easily convinced to join this organisation. After singing up, we walked across the road into Hungry Jacks where I proceeded to order my usual delicious hamburger. BUT… of course, my sensible friend reminded me that I could no longer eat meat after deciding to join this organisation. So, disappointed, I left the store hungry.

At that stage of my life, I had not really understood the relationship between the animals I loved and the animals I ate. So, I have to admit I was a reluctant vegetarian. So, needless to say, it wasn’t too long afterwards that I slowly began to eat meat once more. However, I couldn’t get shake that feeling that it didn’t seem right for someone like me who loves all animals, such as cows, sheep, pigs and chicken, to sit down to a meal and eat them. This feeling stayed with me for many years until one day I decided I couldn’t do it any more. At this point, I researched protein sources, ensured I had the right recipes, understood wholeheartedly what I would need to give up and trusted in my ability to commit to this lifestyle. I still eat some seafood (this one will take another effort and commitment to give up), but I now realise I had to be in the right frame of mind before I could achieve my goal – permanently.

Personal Goals

As you can see, deciding on a new goal is just the tip of the iceberg. If it’s not a deep burning issue and desire for you, it is highly likely you will not sustain the motivation to continue on your path to achieve your goal. Exercise and dieting are prime examples. Most people know they should be getting fitter, but until they deeply believe it’s imperative to do so, this goal will unfortunately not be realised.

We are all creatures of habit and our bodies and minds like to be comfortable. So, every time you attempt to shake things up and ‘rock the boat’, you are likely to feel uncomfortable and revert back to old (often bad) habits.

Achieving goals

In order to form new habits and achieve your goals, you need commitment and consistency. This way you slowly become accustomed to change and eventually the new habits become those you are now comfortable with and couldn’t dream of changing.

So, the next time you decide on something you would like to change, really take time to think about how you are going to achieve it; assess whether or not you have reached the stage where you are happy to make the sacrificing along to way, and then focus on why it’s important to you. Once you have addressed all these issues, it’s time to use past experience to show you that when you set your mind to something you can achieve it.

Just think about anything you decided you wanted (be it good or bad for you). Think about the natural process you took to get you there. You may have decided to buy a new house or car, ask your partner out on a date, get into shape, or apply for a new job. Every new challenge would have been thought through carefully. So, give all your goals the same courtesy and if you find you’re unhappy, make the commitment to live the life you dream, not the one you exist in.

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Dealing with rejection is within your control

Dealing With Rejection

Rejection comes in many forms:

– A partner letting you go
– A parent’s neglect
– A friend’s lack of respect, support or loyalty

These rejections can stay with you for days, week, months – even years and as a result they can negatively impact on your life.
Rejection is made up of 1 part: your interpretation of external behaviors and the other part: your expectation of people, circumstances and events.

couples counselling with happy lifeWith regards to the first part, we are often not trained from a young age to interpret the attitudes and behaviors of significant others accurately. For instance, parents rarely explain to their children that they are ‘snappy’ today due to their own underlying stress. As a result, children learn to interpret such behaviors as meaning there must be something wrong with them or that they have done something wrong.

With regard to the second part, your expectations also influence your interpretation of events. Thus, in the above example, children have the expectation that parents are there to love them unconditionally, so they need lots of reassurance that even when they misbehave or are spoken to in a less than patient manner – they are still loved.

Coping with rejection

In order to deal with rejection as an adults, it’s important to have realistic expectations and to explain events accurately. Let’s use a career example. When you put your heart and soul into work (as many people do), you are likely to have the expectation that hard work equals validation, recognition and financial rewards. However, this is not necessarily the case. Hard work gives you a better chance of attaining these things, however if you fail to take opportunities, voice your desire for financial incentives/promotions, or ensure the ‘right’ people at work are made aware of the great job you’re doing, you are less likely to achieve the accolades you desire. Consequently you are likely to feel rejected by your employer and may even start to doubt your abilities as a result. However, in the event that you were passed on for promotion, you have the option of viewing this as a sign of your inadequacies, or instead to view it as a reminder that you need to tweak your work process. Thus, your interpretation of the outcome will also influence how rejected you feel in that moment.

The same principles can be applied in relationships. Often in partnerships individuals do not take the time to address issues that are important to them and end up losing too much of themselves in the partnership – for fear of losing the person, or simply to keep the peace. This giving so much of themselves can lead to an expectation of receiving the same or more in return. However, often such grandiose gestures are not reciprocated. This in turn leads to feelings of rejection, as the lack of similar support is viewed as a reflection of themselves rather than of their partners inadequacies.

Overcoming Rejection

In order to avoid feeling rejected, you must change your mindset. Whilst no one likes to feel hurt by another persons actions, the way you respond to this hurt will dictate whether or not you interpret the other persons behavior as a personal rejection or just a problem the other person may need to address within themselves – in other words its their problem – not yours!

Lizzie O’Halloran, BBSc, MASR, NLP Prac

Founder of Help For Mums

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Raising Children: Positive Parenting

Child Development

Are we expecting too much from our children?

It’s interesting to note that we have moved from the period of children should be seen and not heard, to a period of constant worry if we are not paying our child/ren 100% attention all the time, in order to create highly intelligent, high achieving and super healthy children. Yet parenting has never been more confusing and there are a million different theroies and new research released every day on the ‘best’ way to raise a child. In one culture, children should be carried on their mothers backs until the age of one; in another culture children should be encouraged to be independent from as young as possible. So who is right?

 

Child behavior problems

As a parent you want the best for your child. But today there has never been more expectations on how a child should behave and on the best way to parent. Parents judge themselves too harshly, judge other parents too harshly and judge their children too harshly, based on the latest research and on their own values, culture and person experiences of child raising. A good example of this is when a child misbehaves in public. Parents are usually mortified because they are:

a) worried about what other people might think of their child or their parenting skills

b) worried there must be something seriously wrong with their child who has behaved like this repeatedly in this environment, or

c) worried about the outcome of the tantrum.

However, often we as parents often don’t stop to think about why our child is acting out, because we are all just doing our best to ‘get it right’. Parents look around and see others children behaving well and we make assumptions that our child is being naughty, but we are only seeing these other children in a very minute moment – in fact all children have tantrums from time to time.

Raising kids – the learning curve

I have 2 children. My eldest daughter is generally pretty well behaved, now that she is 8 years of age. However, whilst generally delightful, my youngest child (a toddler) has developed a habit of running away in public and throwing huge tantrums in public when exhausted. Until recently I tried my usual tactic of remaining calm during the incident, removing my child away from the environment and then calmly addressing what just happemsd. Of course this did nothing to stop the behaviour happening again. So I’ve been thinking and thinking a lot lately about what’s going on.

Being the second child, she is often forced to do things that are not suitable or fun (such as collecting her sister from school open waking from an afternoon nap). So this is always going to be a ‘danger zone’ as we navigate other school children, passing by the playground and paying attention to when her sister exists class.  Being with our friends is another ‘danger zone’ because we need to share our attention. Shopping is also a ‘hot spot’ as we are distracted by shop assistants, and so on.

One thing research tells us is that children are attention junkies. They do not have an off switch. They have a thirst for knowledge and play and want to always be the centre of attention. So I thought back to all ‘danger zone’ episodes to see if I could find the pattern and it was very clear – REDUCED ATTENTION or STIMULATION…

So what is the answer?

The answer is not to work out ways to change her behaviour, but rather what I can do to involve her so she feels her ‘attention junkie’ is being fulfilled? So I decided to trail a different approach during our weekly market shop. Normally, I am chasing after her from a stall – at least once during our shopping trip. So first I needed to tire her out and then I needed to get her involved. The first thing we did was visit the animals at the market. This satisfied her energy levels enough to get started on the shop. Next we found her very own cane basket and spoke about all the veggies we were collecting. Then she was in charge of the money and the shop was completed without a glitch.

This experience taught me that the pressures placed on parents to be perfect leads us to assume we must be doing something wrong if our child misbehaves, or that our child is just really naughty. But I don’t believe this is true. I believe children are sponges and love to be the centre of attention. We can’t always give it to them and there are times we need a break, but if we take charge and involve them in as many activities as possible, portentially unstimulating activities can become engaging for you and save you running after your child or dealing with a tantrum in public in the future. Then you and your child will  feel much more relaxed and be happier too.

“Research shows when a mother’s parenting style matches up well with her child’s temperament, the child experiences half as many symptoms of anxiety”

If you would like to know about how your child’s temperament may affect his/her behaviour, download a copy of my free ebook here on How To Become An Empowered Mum here

 

Lizzie O’Halloran, BBSc, MASR, NLP Prac

Personal Development Coach & Author

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Four Easy Steps To Keep On Top of House Chores

How to stay on top of house chores when you’re a busy professional 

 It’s a new year, so you decide this is the year you want to get organised and keep on top of things – including the household chores.

But where do you start?

money bankingHere is an easy 4 step process you can take today that will get you organised and feeling on top of those house chores in no time

Step 1: Making your household chores list

There are several aspects to household chores to consider, so the first step is to label the chores individually, such as:

  1. Regular house cleaning
  2. Tidying
  3. Paying bills/budgeting
  4. Food shopping
  5. Gardening
  6. Looking after pets needs 
  7. Washing clothes/ironing
  8. Dishwashing & stacking
  9. Car cleaning 

 and so on…

Step 2: Out sourcing where possible

The second step is reviewing the list to see if there is anything you can outsource internally or external.

For instance, there are people who will come to your home to clean your car, deliver home cooked meals, wash the dog, iron your clothes and clean your home. Of course this all comes at a price, so it’s important to look at your budget, your spending and your current schedule to see what is financially feasible and where you might be able to save on overspending to accommodate for some of these new services. You may also decide to outsource within your home. For instance, outsource (internally) tidying the playroom to children as part of their house chores to be given pocket money 

Step 3: Your schedule

Step 3 involves devising a fortnightly or monthly schedule for the remaining chores. Use the examples below for ideas:

  • Food shopping online on Saturdays
  • Paying bills on Thursday nights
  • Washing the car on the way home from work on Wednesdays
  • Stacking the dishwasher every night
  • Washing the clothes on Mondays & Thursdays etc…

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Step 4: Constant reminder

Now place this schedule in the kitchen where the whole family or those living with you can see it so it’s always top of mind.

Although it can feel a little rigid at times to stick to a schedule in the home, this is the best way for you to feel calm and composed in the home. One of the biggest sources of stressed for busy women and mums is having an untidy house. However, when you have a schedule the house runs much more smoothly and you can relax at home more frequently without feeling uncomfortable or guilty about your home environment.

Lizzie O’Halloran, BBSc. MASR
Personal Development/Life Coach & Counsellor

 

 

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