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6 steps to happiness in motherhood

Six Steps To Happiness in Motherhood

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Step 6
Feeling Balanced and Fulfilled

RELAXATION BOOSTERS

relaxation booster

We live in a very busy society where it is easy to feel guilty if we ever allow ourselves to stop for one moment to relax. We all have different body compositions and some people are better at relaxing than others. Further, people operate at different arousal levels and thus those who are often energetic and highly aroused can be prone to anxiety and find it difficult to ‘switch off’.

We all need to stop and relax at some point of every day. This may seem impossible to you if you have a million things to do (particularly if you are a working mother), however, this is something you should commit to regularly, for the sake of your health and your relationships with other people in your life. Even just 5 minutes a day to stop and reflect can be very beneficial. Without relaxation and stress relief you’ll burn out. So why not take advantage of the FREE mini meditations below. They are designed to give you a quick relaxation fix.

Mini Meditations

  1. Creating a healthy body and Mind Meditation for mothers

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creating a happy home
Making Your Home Your Sanctuary

One of the best things you can do to reduce stress is separate your work from your personal life. Get into a habit of cutting off from work the minute you walk out of the office door. This is really important, because otherwise you’ll find it very difficult to have a successful work – life balance. Work is – after all – a means to an end, not all encompassing in your life!

Modern society tries to convince you that work is the most important thing in your life. The first thing you’re asked in social situations is “what do you do for a living?”. It’s no wonder people find it so hard to leave work behind once they leave the office building. Subsequently, workers often complain that it takes them until Sunday night on weekends to unwind from work and when taking annual leave, it can take a whole week to unwind from the stress associated with work. In order to avoid living the rat race, it’s vital to make your home your sanctuary.

Tips of making your home a sanctuary

It’s really easy to create a nice ritual when you arrive home from work, in order to break the association between work and stress. Here are some suggestions that have worked well for our clients:

On your way home from work tell yourself that work is a means to an end – LIVING. This sounds simple, but when you finally realise that work is actually NOT your whole life, you begin to see it for what it really is. You stop getting so upset about the little things, as you begin to appreciate the reason you’re working in the first place (e.g. to live in your nice home, to feed and play with your lovely family, to dress in comfortable clothes, to travel etc…)

  • Get into a habit of burning essential oils at home (try bergamot and geranium mix) as soon as you come home. These oils not only create a peaceful environment, but leave your home smelling lovely
  • Lie on the bed or in a comfortable chair for 5 minutes and breathe deeply in and out to relax. This type of relaxation is a great way to relax and bond with a family pet.

Then ease into your evening and ENJOY YOUR LIFE. Remember – work is a means to an end

FEELING GOOD

happiness boosters for career success in motherhood

We live in a very busy society where we generally feel as though we are never allowed to stop for one moment to relax. We all have different body compositions and some people are better at relaxing than others. Further, people operate at different arousal levels. Thus those who are often energetic and highly aroused can be prone to anxiety and finding it difficult to ‘switch off’.
It’s important to try to stop and relax at some point during each day. This may seem impossible you if you have a million things to do (particularly if you are a working mother), however, this is something you should really try to commit to. Even just 5 minutes a day to stop and reflect would be really beneficial to your health and wellbeing.
There are a number of ways to meditate for instance, which can help you to refocus and centre yourself. A few relaxation techniques are outlined below. You can practice them at home, before
you start work, or in the car while your family member/friend/partner is driving the car. Just 5 minutes of your time is all it takes for a ‘quick fix’. Before you begin any of these techniques make sure you are in a comfortable position and request not to be disturbed.
There are a number of ways you can de-stress your mind in a matter of minutes. The three techniques below are quick-fix methods and usually just work to de-stress you in the moment. Thus, for long term benefits they should be used in conjunction with the long-term practices, such as regular 30 minute meditation and daily Rational Emotive Therapy.

1) Jacobson’s progressive muscle relaxation and imagery technique

First take a few deep breaths, then close your eyes and imagine yourself in a relaxing environment, for instance on a tropical island, having fun with friends, or reading a book. Now go through each muscle part of your body by tensing the muscles and then relaxing them and do each body part twice. For instance, you might first begin with your face, then your neck, then your shoulders, then your back, then your arms, then your hands, then your stomach, then your buttocks, then your thighs, then your calves and finally your feet.

2) Self hypnosis

Relax your mind by once again imagining yourself in a relaxing environment, for instance on a tropical island, having fun with friends, or reading a book. Then, count from 300 back to 1. By the
time you reach number 1 you should be very relaxed.

3) Sample breathing technique

Breathe in from your diaphragm (lower abdominal area) and slowly bring the breath up through the lower and upper chest for a count of 5. Then hold on to the breath for as long as possible without straining yourself (e.g. for a count of 15 – 20) and then exhale as slowly as possible.