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6 months ago · · 0 comments

How To Reduce Procrastination and Achieve Your Goals

It’spractical exercise self esteem course very easy to set a new goal. In fact, every year, at midnight on New Year’s Eve millions of people around the world decide on New Year’s resolutions that they have every intention of keeping, but alas rarely adhered to, or even attempt, by the end of January.

One would assume that if you set a resolution, it’s because you’re fed up with certain aspects of your life and you have decided that it’s time to make a change. However, in many cases, at the time of making the resolution, certain essential ingredients are likely to have been missed, such as:

  1. Writing a clear, precise and easy to follow plan
  2. Developing a monitoring chart to check that you are maintaining your plan
  3. Committing to your new goal
  4. Understanding deeply why the goal is important to you
  5. Increasing your internal belief that you can achieve your goal
  6. Committing to the sacrifices you will have to make in order to sustain this goal

I experienced the sixth item above when I was 17 years of age. A friend and I were walking down a very busy shopping strip when we were stopped by Animal Liberation activists and asked to join their organisation. My friend was already a vegetarian, but being South American, I was brought up eating meat – and lots of it. However, despite my upbringing I have always been a passionate lover of animals and so I was easily convinced to join this organisation. After singing up, we walked across the road into Hungry Jacks where I proceeded to order my usual delicious hamburger. BUT… of course, my sensible friend reminded me that I could no longer eat meat after deciding to join this organisation. So, disappointed, I left the store hungry.

At that stage of my life, I had not really understood the relationship between the animals I loved and the animals I ate. So, I have to admit I was a reluctant vegetarian. So, needless to say, it wasn’t too long afterwards that I slowly began to eat meat once more. However, I couldn’t get shake that feeling that it didn’t seem right for someone like me who loves all animals, such as cows, sheep, pigs and chicken, to sit down to a meal and eat them. This feeling stayed with me for many years until one day I decided I couldn’t do it any more. At this point, I researched protein sources, ensured I had the right recipes, understood wholeheartedly what I would need to give up and trusted in my ability to commit to this lifestyle. I still eat some seafood (this one will take another effort and commitment to give up), but I now realise I had to be in the right frame of mind before I could achieve my goal – permanently.

As you can see, deciding on a new goal is just the tip of the iceberg. If it’s not a deep burning issue and desire for you, it is highly likely you will not sustain the motivation to continue on your path to achieve your goal. Exercise and dieting are prime examples. Most people know they should be getting fitter, but until they deeply believe it’s imperative to do so, this goal will unfortunately not be realised.

We are all creatures of habit and our bodies and minds like to be comfortable. So, every time you attempt to shake things up and ‘rock the boat’, you are likely to feel uncomfortable and revert back to old (often bad) habits.

In order to form new habits and achieve your goals, you need commitment and consistency. This way you slowly become accustomed to change and eventually the new habits become those you are now comfortable with and couldn’t dream of changing.

So, the next time you decide on something you would like to change, really take time to think about how you are going to achieve it; assess whether or not you have reached the stage where you are happy to make the sacrificing along to way, and then focus on why it’s important to you. Once you have addressed all these issues, it’s time to use past experience to show you that when you set your mind to something you can achieve it.

Just think about anything you decided you wanted (be it good or bad for you). Think about the natural process you took to get you there. You may have decided to buy a new house or car, ask your partner out on a date, get into shape, or apply for a new job. Every new challenge would have been thought through carefully. So, give all your goals the same courtesy and if you find you’re unhappy, make the commitment to live the life you dream, not the one you exist in.

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11 months ago · · 0 comments

How to improve self esteem through goal setting

Goal Setting and Happiness

goal setting to build self esteemIt’s an interesting aspect of human existence that people would often rather remain in an unhappy environment, than strive towards true happiness. Maybe this has something to do with our inherent mentality of “I’ll be happy when…” – feeling defeated by the pain of the here and now.

Do you focus regularly on your past achievements?

If you think back in time to all the desires you longed for and finally achieved, how many of these do you re-focus on and remind yourself of how great you feel as a result of these achievements? Our brains seem to be wired to focus on thoughts such as “yeh I know I have that, but I don’t want this present feeling and therefore until I get what I really want, I won’t REALLY be happy”.

The sneaky truth is that there is never an end of the road because we will always be seeking new adventures, relationships, material pleasures. There is nothing wrong with pushing goals, however our assumption that only through achievement can we  ultimately gain happiness is flawed.

As human beings we are meant to seek greater heights. We just need to accept this is a fantastic aspect of life, rather than a constant burden. We need to trust that we can map out the journey towards our goals and desires, but the road is likely to take many turns and when we reach our desired outcome we will question “what’s next”???

Therefore the answer lies in being excited about your desires and trusting in your abilities to stand the test of time and pursue your dreams – riding the waves along the way!

Believe in yourself

If you are in a situation or circumstance that is causing extreme unhappiness this focus is even more important. The most important thing to do is begin to build your self esteem and self confidence in your abilities to achieve your desires. You need to trust in your abilities to get you there and focus on the excitement of small achievements along the way. Each achievement should be recognised and rewarded. For instance, having the discipline to sit down and study, completing a highly commended project, getting to gym 3 times this week, or eating healthy foods today.

When you begin to relish in each achievement you gain closer perspective on how to enjoy the road ahead and appreciate each moment.

Life is to be lived, not wasted waiting until happiness falls upon you. It’s your life. Live it & love it.

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11 months ago · · 0 comments

How to Boost Self Confidence and Self Worth

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You don’t have to have self confidence in every aspect of your life to be successful or happy

However, you DO need to have self belief in the areas you strive to succeed in. This is why you can be very successful in your career but feel lost in your relationships. Self belief is situation specific. If you are regularly self sabotaging yourself or feel like a failure in a particular area of your life, take a close look at your level of self belief in this area. For instance if you haven’t succeeded in your career – do you doubt your abilities? Do you allow internal or external circumstances to impact on your self confidence? If you have not succeeded in your desire to attract a long term partner – do you doubt your level of attractiveness? Do you believe you really deserve to be treated with love and respect? Do you think you have enough to offer a partner? Do you fear rejection?

These questions must be answered and dealt with in order to increase your self belief and to drive you to continue to work towards achieving your desired goals. If you have established a desired goal, there MUST be a strong part of you that believes you deserve it and can actually achieve it, otherwise you wouldn’t even try. However, often life circumstances negative thoughts, doubts and insecurities get in the way of these beliefs and curtail your efforts to succeed.

You must leverage on the inherent belief that you can and will achieve your desires! You must trust that your mind is smart enough to know not to create a desire that it believes is not achievable. Thus, it’s important to recognise that you know deep down that your goals are achievable for you. In order to trust your inner beliefs you must learn to ignore and challenge the negative beliefs and expectations of others and yourself. Those who care for you will not want you to struggle and hence may encourage you to push away your dreams. Those who are jealous of you may try to diminish your confidence. You internally may compare yourself to others who have already achieved success and be influenced by self doubt.

The key is to regularly remind yourself that your goals are achievable for you. With persistent effort and determination you will achieve your dreams at the perfect time for you. It’s important to trust this. So… The process of your journey is to map out your plan for success, regularly remind yourself of why you will achieve your goals and then focus in the moment on each step as you get closer and closer to your desires.

If your dreams are truly conceivable for you, they are achievable!

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