5 years ago · lizzie · 0 comments
Goal Setting and Happiness
It’s an interesting aspect of human existence that people would often rather remain in an unhappy environment, than strive towards true happiness. Maybe this has something to do with our inherent mentality of “I’ll be happy when…” – feeling defeated by the pain of the here and now.
Do you focus regularly on your past achievements?
If you think back in time to all the desires you longed for and finally achieved, how many of these do you re-focus on and remind yourself of how great you feel as a result of these achievements? Our brains seem to be wired to focus on thoughts such as “yeh I know I have that, but I don’t want this present feeling and therefore until I get what I really want, I won’t REALLY be happy”.
The sneaky truth is that there is never an end of the road because we will always be seeking new adventures, relationships, material pleasures. There is nothing wrong with pushing goals, however our assumption that only through achievement can we ultimately gain happiness is flawed.
As human beings we are meant to seek greater heights. We just need to accept this is a fantastic aspect of life, rather than a constant burden. We need to trust that we can map out the journey towards our goals and desires, but the road is likely to take many turns and when we reach our desired outcome we will question “what’s next”???
Therefore the answer lies in being excited about your desires and trusting in your abilities to stand the test of time and pursue your dreams – riding the waves along the way!
Believe in yourself
If you are in a situation or circumstance that is causing extreme unhappiness this focus is even more important. The most important thing to do is begin to build your self esteem and self confidence in your abilities to achieve your desires. You need to trust in your abilities to get you there and focus on the excitement of small achievements along the way. Each achievement should be recognised and rewarded. For instance, having the discipline to sit down and study, completing a highly commended project, getting to gym 3 times this week, or eating healthy foods today.
When you begin to relish in each achievement you gain closer perspective on how to enjoy the road ahead and appreciate each moment.